That day, a friend of mine posts a status in the popular social network, Facebook. There was nothing special about it other than makes people scared and sympathy. Like millions of people who used the Facebook as the platform to release tension, on that day, my friend used it for the same purpose, wrote on his wall that he want to commit suicide. Shortly after, she received few comments on her status, give support and advice to stay calm and not do something against the religious teaching.
As a friend, I send SMSes, reminded her to relax and read al-Quran, so that she will be stay calm and think properly. As a person who knows her a quite well, I know the reason for his disappointed that lead to that unnecessary status and I believe he will not commit suicide, but still, I worried as she might commit this sinful act.
What happened to my friend as I told above is a normal to anybody. Sometimes you feel happy, sometimes you feel sad. Whatever it is, we need a place to share. It is easy for us share our happiness to other but when it comes to sorrow or sadness, not all people are willing to be with us.
In this world, you get what you give. If you willing to help, give advice, share other’s burden, then you will received the same treat from people around you. My friend, who is well known for his friendly attitude, so there is no wonder why people show they sympathy for his sadness.
Let me bring you a story, which I read few weeks ago. This is a story as reminder for us the importance to take care of other and for us to be cared by others.
A mother used to ask his son what is the most important part of the body. Through the year, the son would take the guess at what he thought was the correct answer. When he was younger, he thought a sound was the very important to human being, so he said, “my ears mom”.
She said,” No, many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon”.
Several years passed before the mother asks his son again. This time, with the hope the answer is correct, he said,” Mom, I got the answer, sight is very important to everybody, so it must be the eyes.”
The mother glance at her son and said,” you are close too but it’s still wrong. There are many people who are blind.”
Stumped again, the son continue his quest for knowledge and over the years, the mother asked him a couple of times more and always her answer was,” No, but you are getting smarter every year, my son.”
Then last year, his grandpa died. Everybody was crying. Even his father cried. The mother looked at the son when it was they turn to say the final goodbye to grandpa. She asked,” Do you know the most important part yet, my dear son?”.
The son was shocked when she asked this now. He always thought this was the game between his and his mother.
The mother saw the confusion in his son and told, “This question is very important. It shows that you have really lived in our life. For every body part you gave me as an answer in the past, I have told you were wrong and I have given you an example why. But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson.
The she looked at him as only a mother can. He saw her eyes well up with tears. She said, “my dear, the most important body part is your shoulder.
The son asked,” is it because it holds up my head?”
She replied, “No, it is because it can hold the head of friend or a loved one when they cry. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on some time in life, my dear. I hope that you have enough love and friend so that you will always have a shoulder to cry on when you need it.”
The moral of the story is that the most important body part is not a selfish one. It is sympathetic to the pain of others. People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.
Happy Ramadhan
The Malay Reserve
21 June 2015
10:39 pm
